Middle Life Crisis - The state of mind-1

I'm 24 years old , sitting in a cubical of a international company, thinking of nothing. This was the day, I've been dreaming about. I got stuck in the flash of the images of my childhood days.

 I was 15 years old when I was sitting for my intermediate exams. I was full of energy and enthusiasm to get a bright future. From last 5 years, I've been given daily dose of lecture from father about what does a engineer from IIT means. What is meaning of being a student of IIT. My father usded to say,"IIT is not a piece of Cake. See, Anonymous A ji's son He gave four attempts but could not get in. After so many attempts got in HBTI, state engineering college only. He poured all his money for both of the sons. Second son, can't get even in HBTI." "Look at Anonymous B's son, He went to US just after his degree form there. You know, in IIT, Labs are 24 hours open. Library is 24 hours open." "There is noting like IITs. There is no place for curroption. Even Prime Minister son can't get enter without Passing enterance exam."

My father's expection were killing me. I went to meet a guy who took coaching classes along with 12th board exams. With his experience, He told me that It's like impossible to committe college and coaching togather. I didn't join coaching that year.

After passing 12th, I went to join IIT-JEE Coaching. It was all so different and surprising. A big hall, accomodating 1000 student togather. First, You have to be in line for more than 2 hours to enter hall. Then, 2 to 3 hours of class. There were 4 more batches like that. That means my teacher was teaching 4-5 thousand students. This was not end of the surprises. The batch I joined was called regular batch. Ankit told me that last year there was no selection from regular batch. I said , "What the Fuke, 2500 students out of 4000 study in Regular batch and no selection." I used to be very depressed  over the fact. More Over, the negative facts and feeling that everybody had was like a killer. Last year, only 178 students got selected out of 4000. That too from Ranker's batch. It's all a killer for student from regular batch. The batch name is itself so rotten,'Regular'. This was proved, when only 100 students cleared pre round of JEE out of 2500 and only 1 student cleared main round of JEE that to with a rank of 3550.

I cleared Pre and mains with rank around 7000. I was not as depressed as I should be for not clearing JEE. But, I had a good feeling of getting at least some rank. I started study again in Rankers batch that was considered as good batch. In the next attempt, I study with my friend Rahul. We made a discission to study in night togather. Firstly, we found a place to study. Anand's uncles owns a school. We used to go there aftehr coaching. Rahul, me and Anand used to study togather till late night in the school. But, it was not sufficient to crack JEE. We take an-other discission to study in home togather. Then, We started going in each-other home alternate nights and study togahter whole nights. Finally, Both of us cleared JEE. He got a rank of 786 and I got 1055.

I wanted to go to govahiti to take Computer Science with Rahul. Rahul's father didn't want to let him go out of Kanpur. He took Mechanical, IIT Kanpur. My parents didn't want to let me go to gowahiti due to terrorism. I got Electrical, IIT Kharagpur. Both of us got what we wanted, our parents wanted. This was It IIT.

But, Now what. What after getting in. We didn't made some good records in IITs. We lost somewhere in IITs. Till today, We regret to not joining same college and branch. As being a student of IIT, I got a job in a multinational company. But, Is this the end of the story? Did I went through all hard work from class 1 to IITs for this? Am I born for this? Is this what I'm supposed to do? Am I going to pass my life sitting in front of a cubical?

Searching for answers.......

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******Some day I'll go to Himalaya Holding a Kamandal*********

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Jindgee Ka Jugaad

Marriage, It is very typical word that means a tie between a lady and a man to live to-gather with love. It looks like marriage has become just a contract to support each other .  In today world, society is evolving with new definitions of relationships and new type of life style. It has been very difficult for youth that is struggling as being a part of link between old culture and new free European culture.

  In European countries, people starts having relationship from eighth standard. Mind that , here relationship means physical and mental (love) both. Usually they break up and start having a series of partners. Physical relationship becomes meaningless for them very soon. Sex is like chewing gum for them. It doesn't matter much.  Now they start searching a good companion in there partner. Marriage is a thing to do while they are fed up of sex and want to move forward in life with a friend that can support and can give a change to life. Mostly, They also end up in Jindgee ka Jugaad. But, It's very obvious that they have good probability to find a partner with good amount of companionship.

  India is going though a change in society. The change in not uniform throughout the country and society. Some people has totally adopted European style and some are in between. Still , There is big population in India that is very old cultured and love to remain like that and think western culture bad and full of nudity. Now, change is evolving through the families that have both kind of people. Generally, young kids and youth want to follow western people and there parents are the one have full feel of old Indian culture. Kids are supposed to follow and obey there parents. Parents always press their children to remain as they were. They are afraid of any change. It's generally common practice in India to marry a girl or boy from your cast only. Society in India is divided in many castes and sub-castes.

  The youth of India who watches english movies and goes to malls can not remain untouched with english culture that gives full freedom to enjoy from eighth standard and to choose your partner. If somebody say that according to old indian culture you should not do enjoy and have sex before marriage and remain a good guy, it's totally ridiculous. People used to do enjoy and do all the stuff but matter of fact it's all hidden. Nobody can stop anybody from doing a natural duty (sex). Everybody know that it's a pleasure to have sex and they always wanted to do that but they wont because they feared their parents when they were young.

  Nobody is saint like Vivekanand but all pretend to be a great. It's scientific fact that one should have feelings and changes in body if you see a pretty lady. But, in our so called best culture of the world, you should not let other feel that you had feel something. Otherwise, You will be considered as a bad guy. Yeah, but for sure you can feel any thing from inside or crack any type of jokes if you are with your friends.

 Now, pre-liberal and post-ancient culture in India has very complex effects on relationship. In Engineering college, medical colleges even in some schools , It has become an fashion to have a boyfriend or girlfriend. But, till now there is no set rules or everybody is confused with the meaning of being in relationship. Some couples (Here I'm talking about unmarried and school -college girls and boys) enjoy their relationship and some of them restrict themselves till some level. Most of them are unaware of the future of relationship or they don't want to think about the future.

 Most of the couples knew it from before that they will be apart in future but they don't talk about it and only have feeling of that. Most of the time, Indian couples are like unsatisfied carbonic compound opposite of European couples who are fed of physical enjoyment. So, Indian couples have some attraction after break-up as well. Generally, Indian couples breaks up because of not-same caste and to make there parents happy or when they set apart after leaving school college or they were in relationship only to get a tag of having a boyfriend of girlfriend.

Now, All of those people who had breaks up think that they will not have any more relationship. But they do again and they loose love in relationship in the process. Now, after all this mess , they come to final destination and give a full stop to this game. The marriage.

 The marriage that have been arranged with consent of parents and society and The marriage that gives you a feel of being a part of family, a joint big family, a part of the group to whom you meet in your marriage ceremony only, a part of culture. Now, you have a stamp of being a part of society and you are also supposed to make your kid same part of society.

People who have been through this process can not love his or her partner. They also end up with "Jindgi ka Jugaad". Here, it's very easy to understand that these kind of people will have very less probability of finding a partner with good amount of companionship.

Reasons of ending up to "Jindgee ka Jugaad" for Indian couples:

1. Guy will get a good amount of money as dowry.
2. Girl will get a rich husband.
3. The main reason: Because The girl or The boy or Both of them are fearfull (Fattu) persons.

Solution:

1. Rebel to your parents as you used to do for a toy car or toy gun when you were kid.
2. They are only your parents they love you very much (That's what every young boy or girl thinks). But, dude don't get lured by this thinking. Because, If they have ever loved you more than any thing than they must have not denied you to choose the girl you wanted.
3. If you have enough balls , be the man and get your girl.

Reasons why use my solutions:

1. Now you are young and this is pre-liberal culture period. You can fight your parents for sure. But think about the 2035 (liberal culture period- at least for you). When you will be half-old and your kids will be asking you about your love story. If you have done exactly I said , then for sure you will feel proud narrating the story to your kids.
2. If you don't take my advice and do a arrange-marriage and get dowry and your father's choice girl, you will regret for whole life. Your kids will be feeling pity on you.
3. If you don't rebel now, your kids will do for sure. Dude…!!!  That will be 2035… So, better you show them the way….!!!

What does it take.. To be JUST Happy...?

Part-I

"What does take....To be JUST Happy...?" There is a query that blinks in our mind time to time. We don't find any answer. So, we just get busy in our daily routine. In stead of getting the answer and make ourself Happy.

 There is very good answer. Getting the thing we yearn for makes us Happy. But, after being owner of the thing ,we come again back to pre-happy state.

 Now, Research tells us that I'ts only a chemical that makes us happy. 

A chemical.... !!! WTF...!!!

If we produce the chemical and market get flooded of that, India will get a solution of population problem for sure and It will be a big problem for European countries who have problem of low population.

 

Today, I saw old ad of Bajaj Scooter and it refreshed my memories of the day when my family got a scooter. My family was registering it's name from lower middle class to middle class. My father was happy. I was more happy. I was just 12 year old boy and was very happy. Now, Thinking of that day, I feel like my happiness sensitivity has reduced. For non-engineering background people. I'll give the equation.

Assets = Whatever you own.

Happiness = Change in Assets.

Happiness sensitivity = Change in Happiness / Change in your assets.

Now, This gives me a very good relation between Happiness sensitivity and age.

This is very simple to observe that nobody is happy with his present state of assets. From childhood, change in life makes one happy and amount of changes reduces drastically as age increases. That makes life constant and results in zero happiness.

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Limits you have...

Why do we have limits?

    I was taught several things from my childhood that were not logically convincing me but I used to absorb those assuming that elder say everything right. Starting from birth people including parents try their best to teach you everything in their way and to turn you in man bounded with the same limits as their parents did to them.

   At very early age they tell you about ghost or some demon and make you feared of many things like darkness, strangers. That is the first time you start having limits in your life. As you grow up, you enhance many limits to be a social man. Many times, limits inherited from society and parents are illogical and funny. Limits that we gain from different systems like school , religion , language , culture , region , caste and quota are mostly created by a group of wise people who don't have limits but have benefit from people who feel these limits as need of life.

   In school, teacher beats you. This make a limit of interaction with teachers. They teach you to respect elders and not to argue them but who can guarantee that every elder we come across worth respect and have enough capabilities that he is never wrong to argue. Limits created by schools varies as the type of school like  missionary based schools, RSS based schools and madarsas. Language create different types of limits. I watched telugu movies. I observed that villein are characterized speaking hindi. Religion gives you limits the most and gives you the most foolish reasons for those.

      Thus, on the basis of where you are born and interaction level to different people and groups you get bounded with different types of limits and you don't even get a clue that you are trapped in limits. You can't think and act out of those limits.

    Now, There are different groups of people whom limits matches and they starts disliking people who are not in the limits they follow. This is how hatred created in human race that might cause war, dispute and many severe bad results.

   So, don't follow limits created by other human until it looks logical to you. Thus limits will be your own limits in the natural way it should be. Fear is the key factor that is been used to create limits. A fearless person will never have any limits. These limits creates non-uniformity in human race. So, all should have same limits and that limit should be limitless.